Following the progress in society, many women and women agree to have a marriage trial. They think to live together for a while before marriage to know whether they are suitable for each other. If they are not suitable for each other, then why should they start a marriage that is doomed to fail?
I also agree on marriage trial, but I think it is not to try find out whether two people are suitable for marriage but to see what are the problems between two people are and what living habits need to be changed in order to live more harmoniously.
You will not know if you don't try. The time you try, you will be surprised!
Action 1
Xiao Cheng is a strict and someone who really loves cleanliness. He frequently despises my hair that always falls down everywhere, despises me to drop my potato chips on the bed, also despises me to put things as I wish, and makes my room to be in a mess.
The time I was in a good mood, I would admit my wrongs. But the time I was in bad mood, I will be angry and scolded him too.
We were not in same view, so it's hard to avoid fighting.
Every time we fought, he would respond quickly his logic and it made me really really angry!
One time, I was so angry and I returned to my dorm.
My new roommate was someone who studied zodiac. She noticed my hurt expression and reminded me kindly: "Virgo and Gemini are not suitable for each other. It is a human tragedy so it's not a bad thing to break up."
At start I didn't believe it, I followed her to browse around the internet. Finally, I understood why I everyday I wanted to give up Xiao Cheng for one hundred times, a thousand times.
After browsing around meticulously and carefully, Virgo boys and Gemini girls are completely different types of people.
Virgo boys belong to a calm and orderly thinking family, while Gemini girls belong to lively one. Perhaps there would be a strong attraction between them, but after several time, the Virgo male would gradually become cold and even bored. Under such circumstances, the Gemini wouldn't leave him?
Of course not!
When I was in deep consideration, Xiao Cheng called me.
I told him seriously about my decision: "Let's break up."
He was silent for a few seconds, but didn't urge: "Okay, if you want to break up, let's break up."
"Send all of my things here, all of my things." I said it then hung up.
Half an hour later, he called me and let me to go down. I noticed he just brought a pack of potato chip.
He looked at me helplessly: "Your things are a lot. It would be a troublesome for me to bring it, then go back to bring again. Too troublesome. So I just bring the important one."
"You!" I was so angry and thumped my feet, "Don't you think I'm joking, I'm deadly serious."
"I know you are serious, I am also serious." He looked at his watch, "Now, it's twelve o'clock. You haven't have your lunch right? Let's eat our last meal together, just take it as break-up dinner."
"…….. where will eat?"
"Your favorite, "Lao Chuan Wei."
"Em, okay!"
After we finished our break-up meal, he sincerely confessed his mistakes and showed his determination to correct his mistake…. After he finished, he took my hand and clutched my hands affectionately: "Oh, let's try once more."
"Try?"
"Em, I've been returned to the factory for repair, I guarantee that there will be no quality problem anymore."
I seriously thought about it for one second. Then nodded: "Okay, let's try again."
Action 2
We were holding hands to go home, I said to him: "I wouldn't think anymore about the past, but I have two request, you should do it."
"Let me hear it."
"First, it's just a simple request: Later on if we are in fight and I am angry, you definitely should pamper me until I'm happy again."
"Why should I pamper you, couldn't you pamper me?"
"No! I'm too narrow-minded. A small problem will be big for me! If I'm not in a good mood, I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep. I even could have a longing to die! You are not the same as me, for you a major problem, is a small problem!"
Xiao Cheng considered it: "It seems to be true. Okay. I promise you! What is the second one?"
"The second one, as long as I say that I want to give you up, you shouldn't say you are giving me up."
"It sounds unfair."
"It's unfair but I'm a woman. I am impulsive! I frequently do impulsive things that I will be regret in three minutes. You are so logical and cool. If you say that you want to give me up, then you will definitely give me up!"
He thought about it: "It's seems reasonable. Okay, I promise you."
I immediately extended my little pinky: "Let's do it!" After many many years, someone sighs deeply: "Man a, don't you make a promise. It's too easy to promise but difficult to persist…"
It's too late!
Action 3
Not long after that, we had a fight again.
I was so angry and yelled: "Let me go, don't you stop me."
He let my hand go: "If you want to go that just go. But before you go, I will give you something."
"What is it?"
He took out a beautiful bracelet: "This bracelet, originally I wanted to give you for Valentine's Day because you want to break up now, then just regard this as break-up gift."
"I never heard of break-up gift before."
"We are exceptional."
He cautiously put it on me, then hugged me: "I will miss you."
"I also will." Now I started to miss him a bit.
"Then don't go. I know my wrong, later on I will not make you angry anymore, okay?"
I lowered my head and looked at the bracelet. My eyes were teary: "Really? You will not make me angry again?"
"No."
"O." I placed the bracelet on his hand again: "Wait until the Valentine's Day and you can give it to me."
Action 4
Once again we had a great fight again.
"This time I want to break up with you. It's no use for you to say anything!" I said.
He was silent for a moment: "It's a middle of the night. Let's not separate. If you want to break up, then let's do it tomorrow."
"I couldn't wait, I couldn't wait even for a minute!"
"Couldn't you be rational? Look at the time, your dorm is locked now, where would you go? Today is really cold, do you want to wander around the street>
This words were logical, I thought again: "I will to internet bar."
"Internet bar is dirty and messy. If you are tired, you will have no place to rest. If you are sleepy, you couldn't sleep. Why should you look for suffering?" Looking at my hesitancy, he started to calm his voice and patted my back: "Just like this, you just sleep at home, I will go to internet bar."
"But, internet bar is dirty and messy, there's no place to sleep…."
He immediately said: "If not let's wait until morning, then we could discuss our break up?"
"Okay." I hugged my blanket and laid down.
He moved closer and hugged me. After some struggle, I…. submit!
Action 5
After several days, Xiao Cheng made me angry again.
I hadn't spoke up, Xiao Cheng just said to me: "You want to give up on me? No need to say it, if you want to give up, then just give up."
"……"
"Next week will be your birthday. I bring you a present, just regard it as our break-up gift, just leave it as memory.
"I don't want any present!" I already have a lot of break-up gift.
"Then you should say me one." He said seriously: "I give you a lot, but you never give me any."
I thought about it, then felt it was reasonable: "I will buy you a sneaker, your sneaker is worn out."
His gaze soften: "Okay."
We went together to buy a pair of sneaker, he also gave me a birthday present, then once again we had a "break-up dinner"…..
How could I don't remember the reason of our fight?
On the way home, I complained: "Every time you always pamper me carelessly and I will not be angry anymore. I am too easy so you don't cherish me, you always make me angry."
He looked at me: "Pamper you carelessly? Don't you know that every time I do it, I waste a lot of brain cell?!"
I patted his head: "It's okay, what you don't lack the most is brain cell."
……………..
During our trial, I can't remember how many times I said break up.
Anyway the "break-up gift" that I received could fill fully my shelves. As for "break-up dinner", you ate it so many times.
The result of our break-up was always the same — the gift, the food, the moment of holding hands.
One day, I asked Xiao Cheng: "There are people who say that the word "break-up" couldn't be said easily because it could hurt other feeling. But I've said it so many times, and I've noticed that you are not hurt?"
He stopped and raised his head to look at me: "That is because my feeling for you are too deep. Even you've hurt in for one hundred eighty times, you can't see it at all."
I'm happy. I deeply felt that Xiao Cheng's sweet talks skill is improving.
I asked again: "You promise me that you will not give me up, but I don't. Why every time I say to you to break up, you will pamper me to not? Are you feeling that you couldn't leave me?"
He lowered his head and continued to read.
I snatched his book: "Hurry up and answer me!"
He was helpless and looked at the book on my hand, he answered: "Because in the past you told me: When you love someone, you will give all of your heart. You will not be able to endure the pain of breaking up. Although everyday I also want to give you up for hundred times, but I always worry that you couldn't endure it…"
My eyes were teary and I threw the book ruthlessly at him: "You are the most annoying one, would you die by saying "you couldn't leave me"!"
He hugged my shoulder and laughed: "Since in the beginning we promise to date in an unbreakable relationship, then we should persist on it.
We persist on it, for around ten years…..
I don't know whether we could persist on it forever, but I never regret to know him, love him, choose him. Giving him the best and fine years for him.
Actually, men are not born to please women so we should just teach them patiently.
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If a man never says how importance you are in his heart, also never sacrifice anything for you, he even never says: I like you.
But, he always appears during the time you need him the most.
Then, he possibly likes you.
This kind of man, you should give him a chance to get close to you, because he understands what is —— true love!